Wednesday, December 14, 2011

PYHO: When Girlfriends Aren't Enough

I say it ~at least I think I do ~ often here at Single Mom in the South

I'm a grateful for a truly blessed to have wonderfully supportive friends.

They help me with my kids.

Offer free babysitting.

Keep me busy when my kids are with their dad.

Sometimes, though, its not enough.

Friends aren't the same as a significant other, because they have their own significant other.

You don't come first.

Such was the case last month.

I needed my friends.


I found myself facing a weekend evening alone and I didn't want to be, so I tried to call in the troops. I sent out an email asking my girlfriends to come.

No one could, because they have kids and husbands and families that need them.

Oh, I think if I had been in a really bad way, they would have come, but I just needed a pick-me-up and no one could come.

That's the difference between a friend and a significant other.

My friends mean the world to me.

They are wonderful.

Sometimes, though, it isn't enough and it is during those times when I feel most alone.



17 comments:

Heather said...

I get this. Friends at this age are different than friends at a young age.

I am sad that this happened to you, but I also know how strong you are.

Jackie said...

That sucks.
I wish I had some smart response, but really after reading and thinking, that pretty much sums it up.

Diane said...

I understand this so much...I have been there. I also jumped into a relationship or two I shouldn't have because of it. It takes a lot of strength to do what you're doing. ((Hugs))

Tara R. said...

I get this and I have an SO. Sometimes you just need your friends to rally around you.

Shell said...

Oh, girl. I'm so sorry. xo

Kate Fineske said...

Loneliness is the hardest of feelings. I know, when I have tough times like these, I am always happy that I can write about it (vent about it?) on my blog... somehow writing is always my therapy.

Tiffany said...

Sorry about feeling lonely girl. It sucks big time. Wish I lived closer. Big hugs and hopes that you find that lucky man who is meant to be in your life forever.

Sara said...

So sorry. I don't have many friends & none that I can turn to when I just need someone. I feel for you!

MrsJenB said...

Ahhh I'm sorry. I remember those days all too well. Even now I don't know how many people would be able or willing to come to my side if I needed them. It can be so tough.

Anastasia said...

I'm sorry, I wish I could make you feel better. You've had a hard couple of months. Hopefully 2012 will kick ass!

Jenn said...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Being lonely can be difficult, but I also think that those moments often teach us a lot about ourselves and what we want/need in this world.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

This is so hard. I was mostly single for 42 years. It does get lonely.

Infertile Mormon Mommy said...

I think I feel the opposite way... sometime my hubby isn't enough. I love him to death, but sometimes I just need some girl time! So maybe I get it a little. Sorry you feel alone sometimes.

Andrea (ace1028) said...

BAH! I wish I were able to pick up and just be there for you, girlfriend. I'm sorry. I can imagine that it sucks. I guess it varies for us all. We all find ways that things are "grass is greener" and wish we had alone time, or friend time, or whatever time. But we're all in that same boat. Hugs, mama. I'm sorry you had a rough window!

Babes Mami said...

It's been awhile but I remember when I was single feeling this way. Even now if Chris is out of town and he has the car (we share one) and I call for help rarely does anyone answer.

Adrienne said...

I'm sorry!! Sometimes girlfriends can't do it for you. I get that.

Mrs4444 said...

My advice: choose friends with older kids; we're getting our lives back and have more time for friends :) This was a perfect PYHO post.