Monday, February 13, 2012

The One that Wasn't Planned

"Three?  You bought THREE?  You know this is just a formality, right?"

"I know, but you love a bargain and one was $5 and it was only $6 for all three!"

"But what am I going to do with three?  I only need one and we WON'T be needing them ever!"

I've shared with y'all the story of telling my ex I was pregnant with The Boy. Here is the decidedly less romantic story of how we found out about The Girl:

We had a 10-month-old and while we very much wanted another child, were not really planning on it for another year.  After all, the one we had STILL wasn't sleeping through the night.

However, I'd gone away for a few days the month before, getting my first full night's sleep ~ 3 whole night's sleep actually~ in a year, and upon my very well-rested and grateful homecoming evening, I had a feeling that we had been a little too "happy" to see each other.

Here we were a month later, on a week long camping trip, with a still breastfeeding, not sleeping-through-the-night 10-month-old and I was praying to get my period... while camping!

Who does that?

It didn't come.

We kept looking at each other because while we were trying to deny it, we both just knew.
The day we got back from the trip, my ex left to go overseas on business for a week. We agreed not to discuss it until he got back.  

Don't ask, don't tell, if you will.

You see, he worked for Big Pharma and in the days before $ store pregnancy tests, Big Pharma sold pregnancy tests in the company store for pennies on the dollar, so we would wait until he got home.

When he did, a week later, it was in still-stunned shock that I told him, yes, he did in fact need to swing by the store before he left work that day.

He came home with a 3-pack.

At this point, I was almost three weeks late.

I looked at him incredulously.

Really this was just so I could tell the midwife I'd taken a test when I called, we were not going to need three tests.

Into the bathroom I went.  I didn't even have to put the darn test down before it showed positive.

Even with the shock of realizing, "My gosh, it really does only take one well-timed slip up, " I was excited underneath.  It wasn't that this baby wasn't wanted, she was just a year ahead of schedule!

It would be a five more months before baby #1 slept through the night at which point I was 6 months pregnant and not sleeping myself, then another 7 before baby #2 slept.  A year after that, my husband would walk out the door and not come back.

You know what? I wouldn't change if for the world.

Not my sweet, super planned Boy and not my spicy, unexpected Girl.

They are my world.

Having them be so close in age has been a true blessing. They are each others best friend and playmate and in those first few months and years doing it all by myself, having kids at the same age and stage made it made it so much easier for me.

Those extra two tests... just like I thought, I never did need them. In fact, when we moved 11 months after the day I used the first one, I gave them away!


The Blonde Duck said...

She was a fabulous surprise! :)

Natalia Lynn said...

Wow, what a story! My two boys are 3 years apart and while they are great playmates I think I would have liked them a bit closer. But oh well!

Di said...

So you can survive without sleep for a few years. Good to know since Jellybean has no plans on letting me sleep anytime soon.

I don't think you could have gotten a better surprise.

Please tell me they sleep now though. I need something to look forward to.

Christa aka The BabbyMama said...

Oh, I so wanted to have mine close in age. And almost did, until miscarriage rocked our world and the money wasn't there anymore so there went that idea. Now we're trying for another and I'm not buying pregnancy tests because pregnancy, even though it's what we want, just won't be the same fun exciting thing anymore.

Shell said...

What a great surprise. I got pregnant with my second when my first was 8 months old. Planned. We were nuts.

Andrea (ace1028) said...

A beautiful surprise-filled story!

Not a Perfect Mom said...

I love this!
unexpected surprises are the best!

Charlotte said...

I love that they are so close in age. I think it's wonderful they are each other's playmates :)

Love this post, momma!