Wednesday, April 18, 2012

PYHO: The One About the Boys

It's always when you least expect it....

~Yes, y'all told me this...I know this...but I feel like I'm always expecting it, which therefore means I won't ever be least expecting it...KWIM???~

I told you a few weeks back that I had decided that while I'm still not actively looking for dates, I'm not going to refuse opportunities that present themselves. One such opportunity had presented itself in the form of a fix up from a friend.  I went even when I knew about it ahead of time... BIG STEP!

It was not a match... the guy was nice and funny, but there was no spark.  It just wasn't there.  As some of you know from email, I was highly offended by his feet....his feet...and there was nothing wrong with his feet! Sometimes, you just don't feel it ~ and apparently it manifests itself in your reaction to his feet!!!

Then, more recently, I met someone totally platonically... I mean again, nice guy, funny, cute...but in that initial meeting...nothing, so when our mutual friend was out of town and he was feeling down, and my kids were out of town and I was feeling a little lonely myself, and with no other ulterior motive in mind ~seriously, I just wanted company~ I told him to head on over and, lo and behold, over a movie and ice cream, we hit it off. Hey, when a guy shows up at your door with ice cream and the only guidance you've given him is a brand and he still picks one of your favorite flavors, it must be fate, right? ~Just kidding! *winks*

I have been so super cautious and worried about hurting someone and not wanting to be the girl that gets all the newly divorced guys over the hump and then it occurred to me.. for the first time ever, I'm coming out of a break up...not the end of a marriage, but a break up...and I've never done that before!  I have a hump to get over too!!! *Light bulb moment!*

There is nothing wrong with going slow and having dinner with someone who makes you laugh...someone who's company you enjoy while you get each other over the hump!  I am not head over heels, it's not this thing that swept me off my feet and happened faster than I could stop it, like it did with Cute Boy ~Yes, we are putting aside the obvious parallel at this happening during Spring Break week again this year! ~

Heck, this one actually lives in town. That's a step in the right direction!

I like it!  I feel like a big girl!

I am proceeding with caution!







19 comments:

Heather said...

Love it! And you are so right there is nothing wrong with dinner and a movie every once in awhile, spending time with an adult who you enjoy.

Doesn't always have to be "the one".

Enjoy your dates!

Blond Duck said...

Fingers crossed!

Ellen Stewart (aka Ellie/El/e/Mrs. Seaman) said...

Friendship is hugely important, but the spark is too. Have fun!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

It is fun to go to dinner and figure out if someone could be th one.

Diane said...

Sounds like a great plan to me. Good for you!

ChiTown Girl said...

One 'date' at a time, right? Enjoy yourself!

ChiTown Girl said...

One 'date' at a time, right? Enjoy yourself!

Renegades said...

Take time away from the worry and enjoy the date!

Jessica {Team Rasler} said...

I would definitely be impressed with a guy who could pick one of my favorite flavors without help. Sounds fun, even if it's just movies and dessert!

bonnie-bonnbonnboutiqe.blogspot.com said...

I totally understand what you mean by the whole feet thing...!

WhisperingWriter said...

Ha, yes, if feet looks weird, I don't blame you for being turned off..

Shell said...

Yay! Big step for you, girl!

When I met Hubs, my gut reaction was that I'd never date him but that we'd be great friends. LOL

Tiffany said...

woohoo!!! Doing the happy dance for ya!

But seriously now, this is a good thing. Friendship first. :)

The Dolls Are Alright said...

Good for you ~ taking a chance, asking him over ~ letting yourself enjoy being with someone with no motive but to have fun. And friendship is great.

Slamdunk said...

Go girl. It will be nice to have someone with potential in the local area--increasing the ice cream intake is a perk.

Adrienne said...

I love the feel of this post! You seem so giddy, and it's wonderful! There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting this! Good for you!

Di said...

Yay! I spent the first 6 months of dating Joey telling him I don't do relationships so I completely understand being cautious!

The Hopeful Romantic said...

Oh wow - GREAT step forward! Well done!!!! Everything crossed!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

This sounds like such a good beginning!