Monday, June 18, 2012

A Single Mom's Thoughts On Father's Day

I had another post scheduled for today, but in keeping with the "Single" part of Single Mom in the South, I thought I'd offer these thoughts... they are a little fragmented... too bad it's not Friday!*grins*

As always, I dropped the ball this year and did not get gifts or cards out to either Daddy or my ex.  I thought about it for Daddy, but I never got my mother a card for Mother's Day and she made such a big stinkin' deal out of it that I knew it would be an issue if Daddy got one.  

This is one of those things that I've had to let go ~and makes me so un-southern~ not sending cards and thank-you notes...for shame!  I just can't stay on top of it and my mother doesn't understand.  That said, it doesn't lessen how I feel about Daddy, or my mother for that matter. You all know how I feel about Daddy!  I did call and tagged my mother in my facebook status update that said, 

"My Daddy is my Superhero. He was at every game, competition and recital and as a grandfather, has taken my son under his wing and is showing him what it means to be an honorable man. Happy Father's Day Daddy!"

I know how lucky my children and I are to have my daddy!

My kids tried to call their own father yesterday. The Girl left a message on his cell phone and he never called back, which makes me sad for them.  He has called several times in the last week, but given our crazy unstructured summer schedule and the fact that he calls the house and not my cell, we keep missing his calls.  You'd think he'd call back when they reach out to him.  But enough about that...

My BIL, who was raised by a single mom, sent me a text that made me cry. He said, 

"Happy Father's Day to you, because you rock both jobs!"  

Isn't that the sweetest thing??? That's a good southern boy raised by a good southern mama!

I invited Lawn Boy and his children over for dinner yesterday. This is his first Father's Day as a single dad and I wanted to make sure he had plans, because I remember the dwelling...oh do I remember the dwelling... on days like this.  It's hard to dwell with five kids in the house, plus the neighbor's two who join you for S'mores! Got a very sweet text this morning, 

"We all had a great time. Thank you for making Father's Day so special for me. I'm blessed to have you in my life."

Sigh with me please... *awww*

Hope you all had a wonderful Father's Day with the special men in your lives.  And if not, I hope you went to the movies, the beach, the pool and made it a great day for yourself and your children!


Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

You have such a sweet heart. It shines through this entire post!

Blond Duck said...

That was so sweet of you!

misssrobin said...

My favorite part of this post is the last line. The line that says I hope other people made you happy but if they didn't that you made yourself happy. As women, we aren't taught this enough. It's our job to made ourselves happy.

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you had a good day and helped someone else to have one, too.

doseofreality said...

Good for you, especially for making sure that someone else had plans on a day when he probably really needed them! :)

Gaspegirl said...

What a great post and it perfectly illustrates your thoughtfulness! I am glad that you had a great Father's day!

Visiting from SITS, make it a great day!

Erin said...

Such a sweet text from your BIL!

Glad you enjoyed time with your family yesterday :)

Amy said...

Sweet texts from your bil and lawnboy. I bought some new clothes on Friday, when I started to feel guilty I remembered it was Father's Day and as a single mom, I deserved something.

Heather said...

Love this
You made me feel better because I am such a slacker with cards!

And love how you made sure that lawnboy had plans!

So happy you had a great day.

DysFUNctional Mom said...

Don't beat yourself up, you're doing your best!
I'm glad you had a nice Father's Day.

Emmy said...

What a sweet message from your BIL! And yes you did and do do both jobs. I got something for my mom because she was here on mother's day but didn't for my own dad- oops

Andrea (ace1028) said...


So when are you and Lawn Boy coming out for a boat ride? Hmmn. Might even be able to bring ALL the kiddos. ACK! 4 kids, 2 adults = 6, + our 3 = 9 which is the max capacity. EEK!

Babes Mami said... sweet of him!

Your ex drives me nuts sometimes and I'm not married to him nor do I know him.