I have a good friend. In a lot of ways, she has been there for me, but she is not the most reliable. She suffers from depression and as a result, has gained quite a bit of weight. It can be hard to get her to leave the house. Lately, though, it seemed as though she had turned a corner. She is working out again, has lost 15 pounds, is getting out more and in a HUGE step, made plans to finally meet a man she met on the Internet.
She invited my kids for an overnight last weekend, completely umprompted...it was totally her suggestion. The Girl left all of her sleeping animals...and it's a circus...at her house. She didn't tell me until we were going to bed that evening and luckily, coming off a sleepover where she'd been to bed late and up early, she was asleep before we finished our bedtime routine. Admittedly, I forgot about it...and part of me thought that it was her fault and she'd have to handle the consequences.
The next night, well rested, she could not fall asleep without her buddies. I cannot underscore that this is rare behavior for her, but for 3 hours, she was up, down, and in tears and could not get to sleep. I texted my friend to tell her that we'd left the stuff. She knew and offerred to drop it off on her way out of town to meet the guy the next day, because she had to drive right by. Literally, she cannot get on the highway without driving by my neighborhood.
I told The Girl in the morning and we waited. A little after noon I get a text that says she's leaving ASAP, then a minute later I get another asking if The Girl really NEEDS her stuff. Uh Oh! I immediately responded with YES! and, knowing that she'd been out running errands asked if I could meet her somehwere...
Until 2.5 hours later when she tells me she's already 2 hours away.
I was so upset...mad... angry, because I don't believe that even though she offered, she ever had an intention of dropping me stuff off. She decided, that even though she'd driven by my neighborhood no less than three times in getting ready for her trip, it was too much to honor her offer.
She repeatedly said she was sorry, but was she really? Please don't apologize when you make a deliberate choice not to honor your word.
I know she was nervous and excited, but if I had a dollar for every time she bailed on plans and this time, she didn't just bail on me, she bailed on my kid, because by the time she responded, I knew I wasn't going to have time to get out to her place to pick up the stuff before bedtime.
Luckily, I explained all this to The Girl and she went to bed with minimal shenanigans. Her response was, "Oh Mamma, [insert friends name] never comes when she says she will!"
Y'all, I'm just so disappointed. I know I am not perfect and probably do things that drive her crazy, and I know I'm just telling you my side of the story, but...
Am I expecting too much?