Wednesday, July 11, 2012

PYHO: When Yours are the Children Who Don't Behave

I am writing this late at night in the hotel room. My children are asleep...FINALLY.  We are having a good time and I could ~and probably will~ write an endless list of the happy moments, but not right now.

Right now, I am exhausted...worn out...done...FRUSTRATED.

Who are these children I have been schlepping around the park and what have they done with mine?

They bicker...they fight...they poke and instigate and mouth off...they wrestle with each other and knock into others and I cannot separate them because it's just me.  I cannot send one off with another adult and take the other in the opposite direction.

Once again tonight, plans to stay and watch the night show were ruined. Last night it was because after standing in a long line for a ride that we had already ridden earlier in the day with no wait, but The Girl insisted we ride again, she announced that she HAD to pee...even though we'd done so before we got on the line. I told her that if, as we literally approached the turn-style for our turn, she had to go so bad that we had to leave the line, we'd be leaving the park.  

Guess who went home for the night?

Tonight it was by me sticking to my guns. They had been bickering and whining all day. I'd found us a spot to wait for the parade and then fireworks, things they were both excited to see. All they had to do was sit and they couldn't do it. They poked and prodded and bugged each other. After several warnings they did it again and so we left... with them in tears.

I used to have the children that everyone envied. The ones who got along and behaved in public.  This time, I have the children that get stares and dirty looks from others.  

I'm frustrated and embarrassed and of course, these are the times where I get all "Woe is Me" because I have no help and I'm tired of having to do it all by myself and also mad at myself because I should be able to do it all by myself.

And so I am going to bed, because I am tired and tomorrow is another day.  We will start over and hopefully with the disappointment of tonight they will learn their lesson and I will get to see fireworks at a park at Disney World on my birthday!

ETA: This post was written right smack in the middle of our trip to Disney. I'm happy to report that they did pull it together and we stayed for the show on my birthday...not without issue... five minutes before, despite having gone to the restroom before leaving the restaurant, The Boy HAD to pee and Mama was NOT losing our good spot... he ended up peeing in a bush... at Disney... I about died, but at least I got to see fireworks on my birthday! 


myevil3yearold said...

Happy Bday! I sympathize with your frustration.
I hope you have a better day

Leigh Powell Hines (Hines-Sight Blog) said...

I hope you had a great birthday. I understand. My kids are six and 2. And I have the most trouble with the oldest one, and not listening to me. He does extremely well in school, and knows the rules in schools, and is a model=behavior kid there, but at's challenging. I want to get control of him like they have in schools.

Kerri said...

That last part was too funny.... "so he peed in a Disney." LOL Thanks for the smile, and I'm totally glad you got to see the fireworks ON your birthday!
Stopping in from SITS.

Eva Gallant said...

Glad you got to see the fireworks on your birthday! Good for you for carrying through on the threats! They will get the idea and be model children again soon! I just stopped by from SITS to say hello; hope you find time to do the same!

doseofreality said...

I so hear you on this one. I found that my children actually whined more at Disney...the happiest place on earth...for who exactly I ask?? ;)
Glad they pulled it together for your birthday! :)

Andrea (ace1028) said...

Sigh. I feel you, my friend. Big time.

But OMG! Peeing in a bush AT Disney. Holy crap!!! :P

ChiTown Girl said...

Happy Birthday! I'm glad your munchkins were able to pull it together so you could enjoy the show for your birthday. As for the rest of it, your kids are just like every other normal kid in the world. Forget it and move on. Let go of the crappy stuff, so you'll only have room in your mind for the great memories of this trip. I know, easier said than done, right? ;-)

Ellen Stewart (aka Ellie/El/e/Mrs. Seaman) said...

I get the missing another set of hands, another parent thing, but...the kids might actually continue to act this way and then you'd have another cranky adult involved.

I've only been to Disney once, and my son was 11, so I didn't experience this, but I did see a lot of tired adults and kids cranking overtime. I think there's such a pressure to that place to always be having the best time (due to the hype, the cost, the travel time). People push it to get everything out of it, and there are meltdowns left and right.

I'm sure your kids are lovely, you're always bragging on them!
:) It's okay that they're feisty from time to time, they're probably the best behaved of those around you. However, stop giving them drinks so they don't have such weird pee needs! ;)

Erin said...

My heart goes out to you . . . sometimes children are so embarrassing! At least I have my hubby to commiserate with. Oh and the needing to go potty thing after you've been in line for 5 years . . . yeah mine do that too, only we have 2 adults so 1 can stay in line and the other takes the kid to pee. We often talk with the people around us; you do stand in line for quite a while sometimes! I wonder if they would have held your spot while you used the restroom. Surely they would understand I mean all kids pull this crap! I totally had to giggle about your son peeing in a bush! Hey you do what ya gotta do! Glad you got to see the fireworks on your birthday :)

Mimi B said...

It never ceases to amaze me that when you write these posts I think, I could've written that verbatim! It's true, it's just us trying to do these things and it does get freaking tiring some days. Especially days where the kids are behaving...well, like stinkers!!

I'm glad your son peed in a bush so you could see fireworks ON your bday!!

WhisperingWriter said...

I get it. My kids have embarrassed me many times. More than I can count.

Aunt Crazy said...

Having another parent/spouse/partner does not always help.

My kids are 19 and almost 16 and they STILL act like idiots in public, fighting, name calling,'s awful. They have never gotten along, EVER, it's been a real joy going on "family" vacations with them.

For the love of Dr. Pepper, can't we just all get along???

Honestly, I'm glad they are older and that we can take a little "break" from family vacations for awhile before we have grandchildren to tote all over.

Shell said...

I have a hard time believing parents who NEVER have those kids, you know? B/c none of us have perfect kids. ;)

I'm cracking up at the boy peeing in a bush. That would so be mine. And then the other two would follow, just because.

Adrienne said...

We all have kids! They're not bad, they're just kids, but it does stink when we're exhausted and ours are "the ones". Happy Belated bday!!