Monday, October 22, 2012

Like Mother, Like Daughter

someecards.com - I don't know what's scarier - that my daughter is starting to act like me or that I am starting to act like my mother.


Lord Help Me, some things ring so true they make you shake!

If I had a dime for every time my mother wished for me to have a little girl just like me, I could fund that little girl's college education.  

The Girl was quite upset about something this weekend and her attitude had her sent to bed early. When I offered to tuck her in, she wailed, "You hate me!"

Luckily, since I've been on the other end of this path, a time or 300 two, I was prepared with a, "No, I do not hate you.  I will always love YOU, but sometimes I don't care for the way you choose to behave.

*sigh*
*****

I was in the kitchen the other day putting things away, straightening up, and thinking to myself that I couldn't pay my children to put their dishes away.  

Suddenly The Boy exclaimed, "But I...."

I looked up to see him standing in the doorway with a bewildered expression and I realized I'd been talking out loud while he was in the other room and he thought he was in trouble, when really, I was just blowing off steam.

If I had a dime for every time my mother and I had an argument because she did this EXACT. SAME. THING, I could fund HIS college education.

I immediately apologized!

*hanging my head in shame*

22 comments:

Andrea (ace1028) said...

I don't care for ... I like that. I often find myself saying I don't like what you have done ... and that doesn't FEEL quite right, ya know?

doseofreality said...

Oh, you absolutely nailed it. When I find myself doing things like my mother I feel momentarily traumatized...and when I see so much of my younger self in my kids it's scary too. Lawd!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

I see myself becoming more and more like my mother almost every day. It's scary!!! LOL I'll say something to my kids and then think "OMG, that sounded exactly like my mom!"

Diane said...

It happens to all of us, eventually. I have heard my mother's voice coming out of my mouth on countless occasions. I even had Devin say to me once, "You sounded just like Maw Maw Becky when you said that." Sigh...

Masala Chica said...

I sound more and more like my mother every day. And my daughter actually said (she is 5) - you know mommy - I am just really disappointed in your behavior - you could have been nicer to me.

Seriously?

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

As hard as we try to break that cycle...our mothers just have a way of sneaking out of us!

Kristin Leamy said...

I really like "I don't care for the way you choose to behave" - that's great! It takes away the feeling of being personally attacked, and gives them the power to change it. filing this away in my brain for later...

GB DB said...

My mom would say the exact same thing to me. I think that just means you had a great mother that taught you to be a great mother.

Erin said...

Ha! Ha! Oh when I was pregnant with B my mother told me that if I had a little girl she hoped she was just like me. When my kids do things that I did as a child she often laughs and quickly reminds me that I did the same things. That's just as bad as saying "I told you so!"

Shell said...

I do that thinking out loud thing all. the. time.

Aleta said...

My Mom has yet to say those words "I hope you have a child like you were." But I imagine that will happen when our son is born. Lol.

I hope I'm like my Mom :)

Charlotte Klein said...

LOL, I find myself acting like my mother ALL. THE. TIME. You know what means? I'm going to have kids just like me one day so I can apologize to my mom all those years later :)

Jennifer said...

Sometimes I will say something and it clicks how much I HATED it when my mom said it when I was growing up. I think, "now I get it."

Babes Mami said...

Sometimes I say 'because I said so' and I roll my eyes on the inside because it is such a parent thing!

Carly said...

haha, so true!

Paloma said...

It's amazing how we follow into the steps of our parents... unfortunately for some reason it's easy to follow the steps we didn't really want to follow... instead of the good ones! weird! I so wish I could be more like my mom in so many areas of my life... but for some reason I am more like her and like my dad in their weaknesses, or at least that's what I think....

Amanda said...

Bahahaha! I'm in for it too. My three-year-old is becoming a mini-me. Sometimes she is so much like me it's scary. And I hear my mother's voice in my own and shudder.
Stopping by from Saturday Sharefest. Thanks for sharing this!

Classic NYer said...

This was hilarious.

You know, mother used to say the same thing to me about having a daughter just like me. She made it even worse by wishing that I would have two, one like me and one like my sister.

I believe in ancient curses. I choose contraception.

Happy Sharefest!

Khloé Belle Gadson said...

Why? Why do we turn into them when we clearly don't want to. That's a mystery.

misssrobin said...

It's a good thing children are so forgiving, isn't it?

Shake it off. Better luck tomorrow.

Happy Sharefest. Have a great weekend.

Stephanie said...

I find myself making a face. I can feel my mouth screw up, lips pursing, nostrils flaring.

When I visualize my mother, I see--not a smile-- but her affronted/annoyed/mad face.

Then the other day? In the reflection of the car window? I SAW THAT FACE ON ME.

And I was horrified.



Tanya @ Mom's Small Victories said...

Like Andrea, I like the way you handled The Girl's "you hate me!" tactic by saying you didn't care for her behavior. But man, i can relate to not biting my tongue when my boys are in earshot. I linked up just today and thought this was a great writing prompt. I hope Andrea makes it a weekly or monthly link-up. I had fun with it. New follower here.