Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Acceptance and Grace

I am a bit of a closet perfectionist.  Oh, on the surface, I'm fairly quick to point out and joke about my own faults... my forgetfulness, the mess that is my house, how I can't ever get anything done...but inside, it's driving me crazy... this level of order I want in my life that I can never seem to achieve.

In fact, when I saw all the "define 2013 in one word" posts, it seemed more than I could possibly handle. I thought, that would be cool, but I just don't have the time to sit down and narrow my year into a one-word goal.

Then I got my prompt email from Mama Kat and I saw it... one word... ACCEPTANCE... and I sort of breathed a little sigh.

Immediately I was reminded of a conversation I had at the end of last week. At the time, I felt like the world was falling in on my head. I was lamenting to Lawn Boy that my mother would just NOT forgive me for losing a $200 check on which she had left the TO line BLANK. This was all happening the day after I realized that my credit card was not lost somewhere in the house, but in fact had been stolen, to the tune of $700 in charges, when I must have dropped it somewhere while buying myself some much deserved ice cream the day after my grandmother died. LB said to me, "If there is one thing I've learned this last year, it's to give yourself GRACE in times of stress."

There it is. 

Acceptance and Grace

Have you looked them up? Acceptance means a favorable reception, approval; favor. Grace means favor or goodwill; mercy or clemency.

Two things I rarely give myself.  In truth, sometimes I'm not so good at giving them to others either.

The message am hearing in all this is that I need to forgive myself and cut myself some slack. Slow down and take baby steps.  Get things back in order, so that when the big bucket of sweaters tips off the shelf in my closet so that I can't get into it or shut the door, it is neither the straw the breaks the camel's back, nor the end of the world.



For myself.

I'm working on it.

Guess what I found this morning while tearing through my house looking for the $10 off Happy Holidays grocery coupon I needed to place my order?  The check from my mom! Eventually I found the coupon too!
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Diane said...

I've always been disorganized and it drives my own self crazy. I don't know why I struggle with it so much.

Acceptance and Grace...I think most all of us could benefit from more of that!

The Dose of Reality said...

I love this so, so much. If we all gave ourselves as much acceptance and grace as we tend to give others, we'd be a lot happier. We deserve it too! Fantastic post!

Shell said...

Grace in times of stress. LB is so wise!

AutismWonderland said...

Acceptance...that's something I could use myself.

Mimi B said...

Ugh, there are just some days, maybe weeks, where I just want to hide in a closet with a small freezer chest full of ice cream. I'm so glad LB was able to share what he said with you. I'm also excited you found that check! =) Hooray for the coupon, too!

Slamdunk said...

Sorry to hear about those struggles. Yuck.

I was so lucky when I dropped my credit card at a local park a few years ago. A woman found it, looked our contact number up, and she returned it to me the next day.

Headstrong Damsel said...

Good for you, I have struggled hard being a perfectionist and wanting to be everything to everyone. Since I decided to live this as a year of acceptance, my stress levels have plumitted. It's not always easy, but if it works out the way gratitude did for me in 2012, I think it'll be worth it. Accept you, as you are, and others will follow

misssrobin said...

Beautiful choices to guide your year! I hope they bring you much joy and peace. Best wishes for a wonderful year. And congratulations on finding the check! Whew! I'll bet that was an incredibly happy and relieving moment.

Mama Melch said...

Excellent post and reminders for me too. Acceptance is so very hard for secret perfectionists.

Jen said...

It's funny how when we can finally accept the way things are do they begin to changes... and most times for the better.

B. Jenkins said...

I LOVE this. I'm like you, when it comes to being perfect all the time. I drive myself crazy trying to make sure everything is "just right" and it drives me CRAZY when things aren't. I have to accept the fact that everything can't be perfect and I sometimes have to work with what I have. Great words.

Cyndy Newsome said...

WHEW. So glad you found it. And those are wise words!!

Charlotte Klein said...

Love this, momma. Acceptance and grace are beautiful words and messages to live by.

And I'm glad you found the check! That's a major weight lifted, eh?

Babes Mami said...

Hoorah for finding the check! I think that these are great words to live by for the year!