Wednesday, January 2, 2013

My Mother is Amazing

ETA:  In case you do not follow Single Mom in the South on facebook, my grandmother passed away Wednesday afternoon, surrounded by my grandpa, my mother, my aunt and one of my uncles.  Very sad, but I'm grateful she is no longer suffering.  I'd welcome prayers for safe travel for my family. We will have people coming in from all over the country, myself included, to pay her tribute.

My Grammy made it through Christmas and is still with us as I write this, but I know without a doubt that this last visit was goodbye.

The change in her since this summer is grave.  This summer, while she had slowed down, she still came to the living room, sat in her recliner, and played cards with my children and I.  While her hair was not set, she still looked and acted like Grammy.

This time, this time she was bedridden. She has lost so much weight that she looks old and frail...not like herself.  My mother warned us, but my children were scared and I was brought to tears when we first arrived.

I was blessed to spend time with her twice.  She was so glad we came. We said our goodbyes without saying them, but we both knew... we knew this would be the last time.

She is uncomfortable and she got so frustrated during one visit that she actually told my mother and I that she was tired of being like this.  My heart breaks, seeing her suffer.

Her care is getting to be too much for my grandpa, but the facility they want her in has no beds yet. For now, between Hospice and a private nurse they have someone coming five days a week, but that's not quite enough.

My mother is amazing. 

She goes over every day... in the morning if the nurse is not coming to get my Grammy cleaned up for the day and again at night to get her cleaned up before bed.

She sees to it that my grandma is clean and as comfortable as possible, because my grandfather is exhausted and my aunt has school-age children at home and it would be awful for my grandmother and my uncles if they were to care for her in the ways that she needs.  My mom does it and my dad goes with her to keep my grandpa company.  

Because they are her parents and she wants to make them both suffer as little as possible.  

Because that it was you do for people you love.

My mother is amazing.

13 comments:

torinelson said...

So sorry you guys are on the verge of loss. That is terribly painful. It is bittersweet to hear about your mother's amazing loyalty, tenderness and dedication to her mom. I can only hope I have that same caring support of my child when I get older.

The Dose of Reality said...

A beautiful entry. I bet your mom will feel so proud when she reads how you feel about her. :)

Slamdunk said...

Inspiring yet sad. My prayers are with your grandmother and your family during this difficult time.

Shell said...

I'm so sorry. Sending prayers for your family. xo

Di said...

I'm so sorry for you guys. You are right though -your mom is amazing. Praying for ya'll!

Di said...

I'm so sorry for you guys. You are right though -your mom is amazing. Praying for ya'll!

Angelwithatwist said...

I had to do the same for my mom till she passed. We moved her behind us and my husband and I made sure she was comfortable and happy. I took her to doctor appointments, helped her bathe when she was too tired. Nearly had a heart attack when she fell and laid her knee open. Your mom is lucky to have you to support her even if it is through love and prayers.

ChiTown Girl said...

I'm so sorry you guys are going through this difficult time. God bless your mom. I'm sure your grandma appreciates all she does to keep her comfortable.

Charlotte Klein said...

I thought I followed your blog on FB, but I just realized I don't. Awww, I'm so incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. I know how close you were with your grandmother, and it's a very very painful loss, especially so close to the holidays. I'm glad she made it through Christmas and that you were able to visit her once more before she passed.

My thoughts and prayers are with your family. XOXO

Your momma is amazing. And so are you.

Babes Mami said...

I'm so sorry, I am sending you guys hugs and good thoughts. It is so hard to lose someone. When my Great Grandma finally passed I was both relieved and so upset. I hope that you all find peace. Give the kids a couple hugs from me, I know it can be scary!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

So sorry for your family's loss, but I am glad she's now at peace! xo

misssrobin said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray for peace and healing for your family.

Thank you for sharing your beautiful tribute to your mother. What a wonderful gift she is giving to her parents. How blessed they are to have her.

Happy Sharefest. I hope you are enjoying time with extended family, even with the sadness.

Mimi B said...

Oh Leigh, I'm so sorry. I was just coming in here to say what a blessing your mom is to your grandma. I am truly sorry for your loss. =( Praying you feel the comfort of the Lord.