Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Growing Pains ~ Mine Not His

I tend to be a very modest person when it comes to nakedness. I never went away to college or really lived with anyone else outside of my immediate family, so I never really had the experience of having to change in front of others.

Then I had kids.  It's hard to get dressed and ready in private when you are worried about what two toddlers will do to the house if they aren't locked in the room with you.

When I became a single mom and it got even harder, because I didn't even get privacy on weekends.

I vowed not to make a big deal of it...not to teach my children to be embarrassed by their bodies and nakedness. We are certainly not nudists and I make an effort to be discreet.  Privacy, when asked for, is respected and granted. I figured I'd take my cues from my children and when/if it the way I was doing things made them uncomfortable, I'd readjust.

I'd noticed that The Boy, who is now 10, had stopped barging in when I was in the bathroom or my bedroom door was closed. The Girl, however, at 8 and having the same parts as me, *grins* still marches in full steam ahead.

Such was the case the other morning.  I'd gone into my room and left the door open a crack.  Then I'd gotten in the shower and shut the bathroom door. When I came out of the master bathroom, The Girl was waiting for me to ask something unimportant, so I asked for privacy and she left.

However, she did not shut the door and I walked out into my bedroom to get my clothes just as The Boy came around the corner into the hallway.  He got an unexpected and unavoidable view of his half-dressed, half naked Mamma.  

His reaction: A full on, hands up in the air, head turned, duck complete with the "Oh, oh, aww!" to go with it. I'm kind of surprised he didn't scream "My eyes! My poor innocent eyes!" or something, such was the level of drama.

It was all I could do, not to snicker.

Then, a little later, he and his sister were helping themselves to leftover pizza for breakfast and she scolded him for taking the biggest piece.

"But I like big ones!" he protested, immediately followed by a sheepishly muttered,"That didn't sound so good..."

It took every ounce of my being not to hit the floor laughing.

My baby boy is growing up. He is learning to be aware of things he wasn't before.  I know it is a rite of passage, but my heart hurts a little at the thought, even if parts of it have me laughing hysterically.

Then he held my hand walking into Target and coming out of church all in the same weekend and I felt better.


Alison said...

Oh man, I can't even imagine having to deal with this just yet. I have 2 boys, and they're only 3 years and 10.5 months old :)

Angelwithatwist said...

As a mom of 3 boys I totally understand this.

Jennifer said...

I know exactly how you feel! My son has cracked me up at some of the things he's said the past couple of years; but it's hard to see my baby growing up. My boy will be a teenager next month!

The Harried Mom said...

That is hilarious! My son is only 5 and we talk about having "privacy" all the time. I just don't think I'm ready for him though to ask me about women's bodies!

The Dose of Reality said...

I'm in the same situation. I think it was around 10 that it happened at our house, too. My son is almost 13 now and he would rather be set on fire than to accidentally bump in to me when I'm in my bra and undies. (It's hard to believe he was the same kid who never let me in the bathroom alone until he was 4.)

He knocks and then double checks with a "it is safe to come it" before he enters my room now. EVERY TIME. My daughter has no qualms about barging right in whenever she wants, of course. --Lisa

Michelle Nahom said...

I think my oldest son (teenager) would be mortified beyond belief if he were to ever walk in on me! My teenage daughter demands privacy but yet to figure out I might want it too...she has a barge first, ask later mentality. Go figure!

misssrobin said...

Great story! I think you handled it well. I haven't experienced that, but our high school daughter did catch us having sex. Good thing we had that sheet. I'm not sure who was more traumatized, her or her dad.

He'll recover.

Heather said...

Ha! Ha! My 11 year old son is also very modest and after years of leaving my door open or only half way shut as I supervised activities from the shower or while getting dressed I have to remember to shut it or risk total embarrassment. My 6 year old daughter on the other hand has no boundaries and is always barging in!

Joi @ Rx Fitness Lady said...

This is so HILARIOUS!!! I can't imagine having boys and having to deal with that whole thing. Thank you for the late night laugh. It's good to know his innocence was displayed in the same weekend. He's still your baby! Visiting from SITS!

Shell said...

Right now, I'm looking forward to when my boys start feeling this way- they have zero problem busting in on me when I'm in the shower and I'd prefer privacy. But then again- I'm sure I'll feel differently when they are actually thinking that way- b/c it will mean they are getting older!

Mimi B said...

lol I send out warnings to my boys. I had to do that a few years ago, especially as a single mom. And if my boys ever accidentally see me, I truly expect theatrics to ensue! =)

julie said...

We are starting to go through this as well. My almost 9 year old jumps from being super sensitive and locking all the doors to protect his nudity to running through the hallways, wanker swinging freely in the breeze. He's not real keen on seeing me naked either which is fine with me because this body of four looks much better behind fabric anyway. :p

Ilene, The Fierce Diva Guide to Life said...

Oh, the things I have to look forward to in the next few years!

Babes Mami said...

Awww poor guy, his eyes, his eyes!!

Cyndy Newsome said...

My 17 yo daughter walked in on me getting in the shower yesterday, and just started talking to me as if it were totally normal. I said Shelbie, I'm NAKED. She's like yeah, so?