It was not.
Sadly, but fortunately, that person and I are no longer on speaking terms. It's been close to a year, give or take a few months, since we've spoken. I haven't posted about it, because I didn't really know what to say and wasn't sure I could find the words to do so diplomatically.
There are some uncomfortable things about being a single mom; It can be really lonely, so it's hard to pass up invitations from people that maybe you wouldn't usually accept, because it gives you something to do. In addition, sometimes being a single mom makes you feel like the broken one, so it's oddly comforting to know people whose situation is worse than yours, because they make you feel more normal.
That's where I found myself last year. I had been in a rut and needed to step out of my comfort zone, so I allowed myself to be sucked into friendships with a few people who encouraged that, but sometimes it can go too far. Oh, I wasn't doing anything illegal or immoral, but I was making choices that I wouldn't normally make. I was also being asked to support someone else while she did things that went against what I ~and truthfully most people~ believe is right.
This girl's life was spinning out of control. She had made the choice to end her marriage, but it was happening in dramatic fashion and she was making choices that were irrational and out of proper, as well as legal, order, which added to an already volatile situation. All the while, she was hanging on to me for dear life. I didn't know how to stop the crazy train because she had always been so encouraging and supportive of me and I didn't want to turn my back on her in her time of need.
Then she did it for me... blew up in such an over-the-top manner about one thing when she was really upset about something else. At the time, I immediately apologized for my part, but since that wasn't really what she was upset over, my apology was not accepted.
She inadvertently gave me an out...a way to step back and re-prioritize... to get out of an uncomfortable and potentially unsafe situation. I think she expected that I would grovel and beg for her friendship and forgiveness, but beyond my initial attempt to apologize, I did not. Instead, I backed off and kept my distance. I knew I had made the right choice when rather than being upset by the lost friendship I was ... relieved.
I'm better for it. People that I can now see had distanced themselves from me because of her have come back into my life. I'm making choices for myself and my children with which I am 100% comfortable. There is no nagging feeling in the back of my mind causing me to question my motives and wonder if I am doing the right thing. We are happy.
It's a good place to be.