Monday, April 22, 2013

Measuring Up

Way back when in the wee days of my "blogging career" I set up some sort of notifications via Google. I'm not even sure why, other than that I'm sure I read somewhere that I should.  Once a week, I get a little round up email in my in box that summarizes what's on the web using the key words I've set up.

Last week, I came across a great article on what it's like to be a single mom.  Check it out if you didn't already see the link on my facebook page.

I also stumbled across a Huffington Post article entitled 5 Ways to Win the Heart of a Single Mom.  

Because I had not seen him in a few days due to parenting obligations on both of our parts...
Because I was missing him...
Because Saturday morning coffee is not nearly as enjoyable without flavored creamer and a warm body to curl up next to on the couch... 

I thought I'd see how Lawn Boy measures up!

1. Plan a family date night ~Done! 
Once we introduced our children to each other, we tried to plan family things anytime we both had our children. It does help and it certainly increases the amount of time we get to spend together.

2. Find a babysitter ~ So-so 
Be careful with this one. LB did try to do this one time, but he proposed getting his children's sitter on a weekend when his children wouldn't be there. I appreciated the thought. I really did, but my children didn't know this girl and I wasn't comfortable with leaving them with a stranger ~to them~ without his children there as a buffer.

3. Treat her to pamper time ~ Score! 
Lawn Boy watches my children once a week so that I can go to yoga. He usually pays for the class too, because I always forget to get cash!

4. Support her parenting without stepping on her toes ~ More points to him
He's got this one down pat.  He does not interfere and tries to follow my lead with my children. The one time he had an issue with something I did with mine, he spoke to me about it privately.  He is open to my suggestions about his children, who are a little bit more of a challenge and has been really responsive the few times I've felt they were disrespectful and it needed to be addressed. 

5. Know her kids come first ~ Another winner! 
He gets this. Not that we've never had a spat about him wanting more of my time and me not being willing to give it in a certain circumstance (see #2) but he knows my children come first. It's one of the things he admires most about me. 

Looks like he's doing pretty well! *grins*

12 comments:

Melissa G. said...

Sounds like he more than measures up. That's a real keeper you've got there.

Ilene, The Fierce Diva Guide to Life said...

I'm going to learn a lot from you about navigating my next relationship as a single mom! Glad Lawn Boy is measuring up :)

The Dose of Reality said...

Sounds like he is definitely hitting the ball out of the park! Love it! :)-The Dose Girls

Aleta said...

You've got a keeper!!

Mimi B said...

I have to say, LB does a better job than I do when the shoes on the other foot. At least in one of those situations. I'll have to forward your post onto my guy because he would do about as awesome as yours. =) We've got a couple of very good fellas.

Andrea B. said...

Yay for good stuff from Lawn Boy! :>

Diane said...

Wait to go, LB! :)

Stephanie said...

That is the best of news!

Leigh Powell Hines said...

LB is doing well.

Michelle Nahom said...

Sounds like a good man!

Maureen H said...

Sounds like you got a keeper! Your post make me smile because I feel the same way with my man now.

Be-Quoted.com said...

I think this is a really decent list. I'm not a single mommy, but I was raised by one. I think she could likely add a few more tips to the list, but I think she'd agree with what's listed.