Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Sometimes it's Hard Not to Judge

Sometimes, it is ridiculously hard not to judge.  You know you shouldn't, but it's really hard not to.

When someone is hurting someone special to you...

It's really hard not to judge.

When in hurting that person, they are also making poor parenting decisions with great potential to hurt their children...

It's even harder.

When you generally try to err on the side of grace and class and that person is sitting across the table from you with a man who refuses to take his hat off in a restaurant....

And his child is allowed to play on an iPod at dinner in a restaurant when there are several other children with whom said child can interact...

And that person along with her companion have kept the children up so late the night before the big celebration for which they arranged, that half of them fall asleep in the car and the birthday child is mean to everyone in a way you have never seen said child act before...

And that person is practically sitting in the lap of the person sitting next to her in front of all the children in an effort to force everyone to see how happy she is...

And then that person yells at the waitress when she comes in to do the restaurant's personalized birthday greeting and makes her stop because she brought her own cake...

Well, sometimes you can't help yourself.

You judge and maybe laugh repeatedly at anything remotely funny the children say or do to break the tension...

Because you are human and even though you are judging, you are still hoping to pull off that grace and class thing.

Then you ask God for forgiveness and hope He grants it...

And then you throw the grace and class out the window and write all about it on your anonymous blog.

And pray for forgiveness again.


15 comments:

Diane said...

I find myself asking for forgiveness every single day, for all sorts of things. It is in our flawed human nature to judge, I think. It's so hard not to, especially when we see someone we care about being affected.

Andrea B. said...

Sounds like a banner of a night. Oy.

Sorry I was OOT, I TOTALLY would have crashed it. ;)

But yes, it's okay. SOmetimes we judge. We cannot help ourselves when in our gut we just KNOW.

Sending you love, hugs, and the understanding that leads to you forgiving your lapse and need to judge. Cause we've ALL been there.

The Dose of Reality said...

WOW. She sounds like a real treat! ;) Those kinds of situations really get under my skin. Sounds like you handled it perfectly...and this is definitely a reason that having an anonymous blog rocks!-Ashley

Michelle Nahom said...

Those situations are tough...but I think you handled it amazingly!! Good for you! You do have a lot of grace. Wishing you a wonderful day!

Ilene, The Fierce Diva Guide to Life said...

Honey, you are allowed AND forgiven for judging on your anonymous blog. You made it through dinner with grace and pose - Now vent away!

Be-Quoted.com said...

This is such a GREAT post. Not only is a funny and filled with a bunch of annoying side-eye worthy moments, but it's TRUE. We all know we shouldn't judge. We also all know that we all do judge from time to time. God knows our hearts. Andrea @ be-quoted.com visiting from SITS.

Tara R. said...

Sometimes it is so hard to stay quiet. Then there are times when it's better to ask forgiveness than permission. I try not not to judge too, or at least not out loud.

(visiting via PYHO)

Tara R. said...

Sometimes it is so hard to stay quiet. Then there are times when it's better to ask forgiveness than permission. I try not not to judge too, or at least not out loud.

(visiting via PYHO)

Not a Perfect Mom said...

ah judging....if it was an Olympic sport surely I'd get the gold....
Almost every night I pray for forgiveness for that sin of mine...sigh

Cyndy Newsome said...

I think that there's judging, and then there's just acknowledging that someone is an a**hole.
I think in this case, you're doing the latter.

Shell said...

What a night!

I think it's almost impossible to stop the inward judging. That automatic reaction we have when we see things like this. But it's what we do with that that matters.

Angelwithatwist said...

Girl don't even get me started on baby momma drama.. I totally understand where you are coming from and will pray for you if you pray for me..

AiringMyDirtyLaundry said...

I know I judge. And I know people judge me. I have a LOUD daughter that I'm sure some people are thinking, "TEND to her already!" Even though I AM but I'm not tending to her like they expect.

Laurie Matherne said...

It's so very hard to not say anything sometimes in these kind of tricky situations. I was reflecting recently on grace and forgiveness when many extended family members were living together in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. I am very glad I was given grace to not blast old relatives with judgment. My elderly aunt claims I am one of her very favorite people to this day. She loves me, as I think she saw the grace that God gave me for her in trying times.

Aleta said...

Yikes! I try not to judge, because I don't want to be judged. But just as I make mistakes, others do too.. but wow, some mistakes beg to be judged!!