Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Wonderful, But Not Perfect
I spent a long time striving for the perfect life.  I met a boy when I was 17, married him at 23, had a baby at 26, then another at 27. I stayed home and made it my job to keep our "perfect house" "perfectly clean" and then it all fell apart by the time I was 29, because I was trying so hard to make it LOOK perfect that I forgot to make it wonderful.

Thus began what turned out to be a very long process of rebuilding, much longer than I thought.  It hasn't been easy. There have been so many roadblocks and there are still so many more ahead. Right now there is a set of children living half way across the country with one ex spouse and another ex spouse who lives several hundred miles from his children, in the opposite direction.  There are two homes, neither of which is big enough for the whole crew.  There are two people who aren't so happy in their jobs, but aren't in a position to find new ones right now. There are two different sets of children who have been raised with different sets of expectations and priorities who must learn to cope with a lot of changes and new expectations

But this morning, as two adults snuggled on the couch with hot cups of coffee while ALL of the children began to stir upstairs, it was wonderful.  No one would describe it as perfect, but it was wonderful.  

This time I am making an effort to work on things from the inside out. While I don't have it in me to completely abandon striving for perfection on the outside, *sigh* it's a lot less important and that perfection looks a lot different, because what really matters is that inside the shell, it's wonderful in it's imperfection!

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The Dose of Reality said...

I love it. Working on making it wonderful from the inside out. Exactly what we should all be doing! :)-Ashley

Shell said...

Perfect doesn't really exist- but it does sound like you've found your wonderful!

Aleta said...

Nothing in this world is perfect and better not to demand it of yourself. Now, that doesn't mean you shouldn't dream among the stars - because that's wonderful :) I think you are achieving a happy life and THAT IS Wonderful!

Roxanne said...

Perfect looks different for everyone. I'm glad you have found something wonderful that works for YOU. That's what matters. Whatever works for you and your family is what's best.

Leah said...

I love this. If we strive for perfection, we may be let down. But striving for wonderful - it is possible! So glad you are having those moments of wonderful!

Ilene Evans said...

I LOVE this differentiation between striving for perfect versus striving for wonderful I'll take wonderful any day!

Cyndy @ Back in the Bush said...

I think that's why so many people are unhappy - they're striving for perfection, and it really doesn't exist.
Glad you're making things wonderful now!

Leigh Powell Hines said...

This sounds healthy and great.