I find myself thinking about this new engagement compared to the last time and all the little things that make this one seem so much more solid.
My ex husband and I had dated for 5 years. Everyone knew marriage was on the table. He also knew he had my father's approval, but he never formally asked for it.
It didn't seem like a big deal at the time, but seeing how important it was to Lawn Boy to speak with and seek my father's blessing, even though we'd both done this before and I'd been on my own and out from under my father's roof for a long time....
It shows HIS character and it turns out, it DOES matter and it is a big deal.
My ex, although he chose a private and meaningful location, never got down on his knee.
It didn't seem like a big deal at the time, because I was young and in love, and heck, I had a ring on my finger, but when I looked up from my ice cream and saw LB on his knee, in a private, but meaningful set of circumstances, it DID matter and it WAS a big deal.
It shows HIS character; that it is important to him to do this "right" even though we've both done it before.
The little things do matter and it makes this... US... seem so much more solid.