Wednesday, November 27, 2013

The LittleThings

I know you are not supposed to, but it's hard not to compare.

I find myself thinking about this new engagement compared to the last time and all the little things that make this one seem so much more solid.

My ex husband and I had dated for 5 years. Everyone knew marriage was on the table. He also knew he had my father's approval, but he never formally asked for it.

It didn't seem like a big deal at the time, but seeing how important it was to Lawn Boy to speak with and seek my father's blessing, even though we'd both done this before and I'd been on my own and out from under my father's roof for a long time....

It shows HIS character and it turns out, it DOES matter and it is a big deal.

My ex, although he chose a private and meaningful location, never got down on his knee.  

It didn't seem like a big deal at the time, because I was young and in love, and heck, I had a ring on my finger, but when I looked up from my ice cream and saw LB on his knee, in a private, but meaningful set of circumstances, it DID matter and it WAS a big deal.

It shows HIS character; that it is important to him to do this "right" even though we've both done it before.

The little things do matter and it makes this... US... seem so much more solid.

13 comments:

Janet Krugel said...

My engagement was a given because I was pregnant and we knew we were in love, but my husband still called my dad and still officially proposed to me. It's the memories and the thought that makes it that much more special.

Heather said...

You are right the little things do matter. Some times in the moment and with not as much maturity we can get overwhelmed by everything else and push the significance of the little things aside.

Happy Thanksgiving!!!!

Stacey said...

It really IS the little things that matter. I am glad you are solid and happy! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

ChiTown Girl said...

I'm glad this "feels so right" this time. The little things DO matter.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your whole gang.

xoxox

Adrienne said...

Oh my goodness! Congrats! It's been a while since I've dropped by. I'm so happy for you! Those little things do matter.

Ilene Evans said...

Those little things? Are really the big things. They do matter. And I'm glad they matter to LB too!

Rob said...

I actually the think the "little things" matter more than many of the big things. They are the things that really create our everyday life! So glad you are able to enjoy all these little things!

Leah said...

Shoot - forgot to sign out of hubby's account again! But "Rob" agrees, the little things are what matters most!! lol

Aleta said...

It's human nature to compare… and I'm guilty of doing the same when it came to the ex and my husband. (And truth be told, I sometimes still do compare, which is crazy and I try to make it a rule not to look back, only forward.. but human nature… ah well)..

I love that you value the little things, because you're right… they really aren't that little at all!

Cyndy @ Back in the Bush said...

I think it's impossible not to compare.
I am smiling, so happy for YOU!

Shell said...

I'm so glad he did it right. :)

Leigh Powell Hines said...

So happy for you.

Charlotte Klein said...

I love that he did it the right, conventional, traditional way. Maybe I'm a bit more old-fashioned than I had originally thought, but gestures like that make all the difference in the world.

And don't compare! (Though I know it must be so much easier said than done). This is a whole new life you are both creating together. Thinking about exes will just drive you to drink! XOXO and am SOOOO incredibly happy for you, momma. Hope you had a lovely Thanksgiving!