Wednesday, February 19, 2014

When It'sToo Personal to Blog

I've always thought myself pretty open here in this space.... sharing things that I might not share with "real-life friends."

Y'all may have noticed that it's been quiet here lately.  I've mentioned more than once in recent posts that I have a lot going on. Life is... busy.


But that's not the whole story.

The whole story is the\at for the first time, I find myself going through some things that feel too personal to blog.


Has this happened to you?

I realize that I'm not just telling my story and that in sharing some things, I'm also ~ albeit inadvertently~ sharing someone else's story.  Maybe we don't need a public record of things that we can never get back. We all know once it's out in cyberspace, it's out there forever

Because I've always prided myself in being authentic... keeping it honest and real and transparent ~well, aside from the fact that I don't use my real name~ I find myself unable to blog.  When I compose posts, it feels like there's this... hole... where the things I'm leaving out should be.

So instead I am quiet, but still here, missing you all.


15 comments:

The Dose of Reality said...

Yes, I totally get it. Sometimes it's just too big. I have to process things to a certain point before even THINKING of putting them on paper...well, on the screen. Sometimes it's just too personal to do that until much later...or maybe never.

Hope everything is okay. I'm thinking of you. --Lisa

mj said...

There are lots of things I choose not to blog about, for the very reason you mentioned - those things are someone else's story, too, and that other person might not want to be as transparent. Sometimes I write posts that I know from the beginning I will never hit publish on, just because it helps me work through things. In any case, I hope that you are able to find some outlet for whatever it is you are dealing with. Hugs.

The Jammie Girl said...

I completely undeerstand. I've hardly blogged at all the past couple of months - maybe longer. Today's the start of me sharing more, and HOPEFULLY helping someone out there who's going through something similar. I'm not sure it's the right choice - I can tell already I'm going to spend all day today contemplating just deleting the post. But even if I do I know that writing it has helped me sort through things in my mind. When the time is right maybe that will help you, too.

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Diane said...

I so get this because I have been struggling with the same thing for a long time. And my blog isn't anonymous at all so a lot of people who know me read it. I've been trying to find a balance but there is so much left unsaid...

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Mimi B said...

Totally understandable. It's a fine line. I haven't known how to blog about the day to day stuff about Fred and I and if I even should. So, I haven't. Definitely miss you blogging regularly, but you have a lot on your plate so it makes sense! =)

AiringMyDirtyLaundry said...

I understand. There are some things you just can't share. And that's okay.

Slamdunk said...

Understood. Finding other outlets with those things are good as well--I hope your family has a open ear so you can talk to them.

mypixieblog said...

YES!!!

I totally, totally understand completely. Like others have mentioned here, I'm trying to learn how to walk away and process. I used to use my blog to jot down EVERYTHING and I realized that was not only unhealthy for me but for relationships with certain important people in my life.

It's okay, momma. We are always here when you return. Just hope that everything is okay and am thinking about you much. XOXO

Shell said...

You are missed. And yes, I know this feeling very well.

Cyndy Bush said...

I absolutely positively know how you feel. And there's not one thing wrong with you keeping parts of your life private - you are not obligated to spill your guts here!
I hope all is well, if you need to talk I am here!
xoxo

Stacey said...

I totally get it. It's ok to take some time away. Life happens and I think it is totally acceptable not to blog about everything. Some things just aren't bloggable. Hugs to you!

bill lisleman said...

I don't believe in set rules for blogging. It's hard (varies for each person) to hold back some information when it's in your head daily. I think blogs vs. FB or twitter allows a little delay before you broadcast out too much.
It's good know you are still hanging around blogland. all the best.

Emmy said...

Yes, I totally believe there are some things that should not be shared, as yes it is out there forever, especially if it is involves other people.